Calling on all mums to be kind to yourself!20th January 2017
So it began today, my training for a half marathon. To date I have not run more than 10k, just to put you in the picture and started from couch to 5k.
Whilst I was running around the park I contemplated if I was mad? Why oh why did I sign myself up, it’s not like I don’t have a million other things I should be doing. But the truth is this is for me! If I have learned only one thing on this crazy journey of parenting the me part matters- as much as everything else!
Since I have been an adult I have been a parent, before I was a parent I was a child. My identity has always been wrapped up and woven with being a mother, so I have always placed emphasis on establishing my own identity. I have been a student, an analyst, a policy writer, a researcher, a writer, a sister, a daughter, a wife, a friend as well as a mother. I can see why it is easy enough for new mums to lose their identity when entering in to the role of a mother, it can be all consuming, exhausting and not forgetting that you are so in love.
However, I have always found for me it has to be about balance. I am not saying I don’t get lost in the moment, or that I am even regimented about ‘me’ time because that would be a lie. But eventually something clicks inside of me, and I am sure it does to us all at varying points, when it is time to draw a line in the sand and carve a piece of the pie for yourself. (yes you and no one else)
A great way of ensuring this is by setting personal goals like my crazy half marathon, taking the time to put cream on your legs rather than being so rushed that you get dressed wet (I have done this) but most importantly taking the time to be yourself! (whoever that is)
The most important thing that we always need to remember is that we cannot give our children a drink from an empty well. As mums we can be hard on ourselves and easily forget that good is good enough. Your child needs a mum who is well nourished to give them all of the love and support they need, so be kind to yourself!